Counscious Loving and Spirit-Centered Relationship Training

This training is designed to equip you with the essential relationship-building skills we've developed during the past thirty years. Whether you use these skills personally or professionally, you'll find that you get stuck less often, shift more quickly, and spend more of your time living the relationship life you design by choice.
The 5-Day learning-intensive is highly experiential and life-changing for the participants. It was created for those individuals, couples and professionals dedicated to inspiring conscious relationships at home and in the workplace.
Some of the concepts and techniques covered:

How to teach the five essentail skills of conscious relationship: Commitment, authenticity, 100% responsibility, appreciation and creativity.

How to facilitate breakthrough in long-standing impasses.
How to assist people in moving from complaint to commitment.
How to use breath, movement and body-centered techniques to speed up problem-resolution.
How to eliminate blame and criticism from relationships.
How to resolve sex and money issues in close relationships.

One of the unique aspects of our training events is the presence and participation of advanced students from our apprentice program. Apprentices assist with facilitating, exploring issues with participants upon request, and supporting a deeper experience and exploration of essence in the whole group.

Graduates of both the Body-Centered Transformation Trainings and the Conscious Relationship Training, our two 5-day training events, are eligible for exclusive listing in our referral directory (see Referrals). This list is viewed by thousands of visitors each week who are looking for practitioners in their geographical area. This directory has several different listing options, from a simple telephone number to a complete website with full technological support. We encourage all our graduates to join our online referral base.

This course meets the qualifications for 31 hours of continuing education credit for MFCCs and/or LCSWs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.

What People are Saying

In addition to the powerful tools and processes I received, I most appreciated Katie role modeling how she creates the life she wants, modeling for me how I can do the same.
Otto Collins, Relationships and Life Success Coach,www.collinspartners.com

I learned that I want to live life playing not working.
Debbie DeVoe, Freelance Writer/Explorer

The Conscious Relationship Training provided me with simple, playful processes that have given me the confidence I had been lacking to be a successful coach. I love mixing and matching the tools they gave me and appreciate that I can creatively weave them into my own work. Katie is the most phenomenal teacher I've ever had.
Susie Collins, Relationship and Life Coach

After experiencing the power of commitment during the 5 day course and experiencing what happens when a clear commitment of Yes is not in place up front, I decided to add a commitment check at the front end of the two days of coaching with my clients. I did it today for the first time and I immediately noticed the level of participation increase, both on my part and the clients.

One of the benefits of the coaching work I deliver is learning about keeping agreements. I noticed it was a missing piece of my Work Habits Assessment Scale. So now I have a scale on Keeping Agreements.

And while I was at it I practiced looping, life stream breathing,and having outrageous fun while I was working today. I had more fun and I know the client had a good day too.

Incorporating what I learned those 5 days into my coaching work is already creating more flow in my life. I am inspired.

Today I noticed every time I said the NEED or the HAVE TO word and I also noticed how often my client said them. So I jumped in and started coaching and then we caught each other. More fun and so empowering and energizing to be speaking with "taking charge" language.

I am having the same outrageous fun I had with all of you those 5 days. I love that learning can be so much fun.
Martha Ringer,
President, Martha Ringer & Associates

Of all my astounding wondrous learnings from the "Conscious Relationship for Professionals" Training, the learning that stays most conscious in my heart is my experiential learning/appreciation of how during the training I consciously created intimacy with others by risking to tell my unarguable truth to them. Telling my unarguable truth to others while using the "Loop of Awareness" opened my learning to being conscious of sacred and deeper parts of my unarguable truth. Through telling my unarguable truth I am now increasing my ability to stay authentic in the present in the presence of others. The more I consciously unconditionally love myself, the more I am authentic, and the more I can unconditionally love others.
Richard Johnson - Founder & President, URO Unlimited

The power of this work is greatly enhanced by the playfulness, humor and authenticity embodied by both Katie and Gay and thereby infused into the participants. The body/mind/spirit integration takes this work to a level I've not seen before. Truly transformational! Thank you!!
Judith Joyce
Director of Workplace Community and Human Resources

Guiding Principles Of Our Work

1. Einstein said that you cannot solve a problem in the same state of consciousness--or with the same type of thinking--which created the problem. For this reason, our trainings contain many experiential activities designed to shift you out of the state of consciousness in which problems occur, and put you into a state of consciousness in which those problems can resolve effortlessly. Our work assists you in shifting from seeing through the "eyes of the mind" to experiencing life through the eyes of the heart. When this shift occurs, previously intractable problems often resolve quickly and with ease.

2. We take a spiritual approach, grounded in what we call organic spirituality. Our training is designed to produce spiritual shifts which are felt in the body, and which do not depend on changing your beliefs or intellectual understanding. In other words, four people--an agnostic, a Buddhist, a Christian and a Jew--might feel a heart-centered awakening of love and compassion, even though each of them came to the training and left with differing cosmological beliefs. We are not so much interested in beliefs as we are in the underlying consciousness out of which all mental phenomena emerge.

3. Our ideas and practices have been tested in the real world of relationship transformation. We only advocate practices that we have found transformative in our own relationship. and which have been carefully tested on the thousands of partnerships with whom we've been privileged to work.

4. In our thirty-plus years as therapists, educators and consultants, we have never seen dishonesty produce happiness and intimacy. So we advocate absolute honesty in any relationship that matters to you. If your relationship to yourself matters, be scrupulously honest in acknowledging your feelings and motivations to yourself. If your relationship with a specific person matters, scrupulously tell the full truth about your feelings and your deeds to that person. Almost every relationship disaster people have brought to our office began with lying to protect the feelings of another person. For this reason, we never advocate concealment.

5. Commitment is crucial to relationship harmony. Almost all relationship problems are problems of commitment. We have worked with couples married for twenty years in which one or both people had not yet made a full body-and-soul commitment to the relationship. In other situations, problems were caused by a person being more committed to an addiction--such as smoking, alcohol, work or others--than to the ongoing dance of intimacy with a partner. Unconscious commitments can best be discovered by listening to what you complain about, out loud or in your mind. When people complain about something repeatedly, it is almost always because they have an unconscious commitment to it. Take, for example, the common complaint about weight: Most insightful people eventually discover that they were unconsciously committed to perpetuating their weight problems. If they weren't complaining about weight, they'd have to do something with all that energy, something truly risky like expressing creativity. We advocate a monogamous sexual commitment, and have never seen any other model work.

6. Arguments start when someone points the finger of blame and races to occupy the position of "wronged victim." This causes the other person to blame and race toward the victim position. Both people end up feeling wronged, justifying that position, and burning immense energy in a futile attempt to get the other person to accept the role of villain. Our work deals with this problem in a radical way: We invite both people to take full responsibility for any problem in a relationship. Both people are invited to shift to asking "What's my role in this problem?" and "How can I shift my consciousness so it doesn't re-occur?" rather than "Why is he/she doing this to me?" When people are courageous enough to do that, the energy that previously was burned in the race for victimhood can be re-channeled into creative activities.

7. Our work focuses on learning to appreciate other people, and learning to receive appreciation, rather than trying to get other people to appreciate us. When you open to receiving appreciation and learn how to appreciate skillfully, other people go to great lengths to appreciate you.

8. We are much more interested in how people are the same than how they are different. While some approaches focus on the differences between men and women, for example, we focus on the underlying unity of genders. Whether you are in a same-sex relationship, a multi-cultural relationship or any other variation, you still face core issues common to all.

9. Creativity is crucial to relationship harmony. Unless both people express their creativity, they are going to think the other is oppressing it.

10. Most relationship problems can be resolved with five questions: What am I not facing? What truths have I not spoken? What have I been blaming others for that I need to own responsibility for creating? What choices do I need to make? What actions do I need to take?