Every Aspect of You Wants to Be Loved. By You.

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 7 OF 31 Does this sound familiar? When I lose 10 pounds I’ll be able to find love. When I finish my degree, I’ll be more attractive to potential partners. When I (fill in the blank) I’ll be ready for a relationship. At the…

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Blame And Criticism are the Junk Food of Relationships

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 6 OF 31 Ahh, the crackle of breaking open the bag of crunchy, salty, fatty yummies! Blaming and criticizing—you or others—releases a burst of adrenaline, which has about the same effect on the quality of connection as junk food does on your health. Let’s…

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Committing Gets You Into The Game: Recommitting Lets You Create a New Game

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 5 OF 31 Committing still has a pretty formidable rep—many people confuse it with being restricted and controlled. Or they think, if I commit then mess up, it’s over. We’ve found that using the true power of committing is the key move to solve…

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Saying Something Real Creates Right-Now Intimacy

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 4 OF 31 One of our biggest relationship wows has been learning the power of authenticity. Being honest and transparent creates THE doorway to relationship magic. Something real doesn’t have to be profound; it just has to be real. You notice what you’re experiencing…

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Appreciating Gives You the Highest ROI of Any Relationship Move

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 3 OF 31 Appreciating gets a lot of lip service. Yes, we all know that in good relationships, people are nicer to each other. But what does that mean? It doesn’t mean being superficial or ignoring what you’re feeling. It’s not the fly-by “love…

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Being Right Isn’t Worth It

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 2 OF 31 Let’s give credit to the most popular relationship sport: being right. There are many, many ways to claim victory in the being right domain, including scorekeeping, criticism and corrections, interruptions, The Look and outright quarreling and yelling. You get one payoff,…

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You Create Your Relationships One Choice at a Time

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 1 OF 31 Several years ago, a seminar participant came up to ask a question about the ACTUAL possibility of having a great relationship and said, “Well, it’s easy for you to say cause you have a great relationship.” We laughed at first, thinking…

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