To Experience Heaven Right Now, Live in Completion

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 27 OF 31 We savor the joy of giving and receiving more love in more ways every day. We treat each interaction as if it might be our last. We communicate feelings, thoughts and requests either in the moment or as soon as we…

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All Feelings are Flow

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 26 OF 31 Wherever we travel in the world to share relationship explorations, people seem most interested, confused and befuddled by feelings. We even had a man specifically come for coaching to get us to perform a feeling-ectomy on his wife. He was convinced…

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Creativity Can Replace Complaining

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 25 OF 31 In our book Conscious Loving Ever After we open with a chapter on creativity. If you were to make just one move to ignite passion and starve complaint, it’s to commit to creating and putting creativity first in your own life.…

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Find Out What Delights Your Mate and Do It

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 24 OF 31 You can be the source of ongoing pleasure and joy when you look for ways to make your partner laugh. If you prioritize customized gifts of joy, you make quantum jumps in your pleasure together. In our book Conscious Loving we…

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Give and Receive the Balm of Being Deeply Listened To

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 23 OF 31 We are resonating tubes that can hum or squeak, expand or recoil in retreat. When we are listened to with presence and curiosity, friction turns to flow and inner space is restored. So often the possibility of harmony gets quashed by…

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Sex Can Keep Getting Better and Better Throughout Life

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 22 OF 31 Really. I know, sounds impossible and deluded. Doesn’t the science say sexual attraction has already peaked, and at your age you’re way past your expiration date?! If you commit and recommit to being real, expressing your creativity, appreciating you and your…

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Changing One Thing Can Change Everything

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 21 OF 31 Scientists have confirmed something we’ve noticed for years: patterns can be interrupted with one new choice. You don’t have to strip mine the whole mountain to find the gold. You don’t need to change everything at once to change. By shifting…

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You Can Discover the Whole Cosmos Through Your Partner

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 20 OF 31 Close relationship is your own personal spaceship that can take you to frontiers of consciousness and connection you didn’t know existed. Complete transparency opens the portal. When you let you partner fully IN, your molecules learn to dance in new ways…

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You Need to Tussle–Just Like Other Mammals

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 19 OF 31 We humans like to connect with our weight, to feel the impact of being fully met in our physicality and embodied presence. When our cats do this, we call it tussling, and it’s really a form of play that many grownups…

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Who Loves Ya, Baby?!

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 18 OF 31 People often in close relationships often look for their partner to fill the love gaps in their hearts. That’s a dead-end strategy. Everyone has gotten some wounds growing up, and those wounds distort a direct experience of loving yourself. Until you…

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You Can Create Exquisite Variety Without Leaving Your Partner or Having an Affair

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 17 OF 31 The culture has imposed some stereotypical stodginess on committed relationships, especially long-term ones. If you’ve worried that dull routine will take over your intimate connection, or if you’ve been tempted to create a new level of juiciness by venturing elsewhere, take…

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Wonder Supplies the Rocket-Fuel for Juicy Relating

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 16 OF 31 Wonder is the opposite of blame. Wonder opens all your brain and body intelligence power to make new connections. When you wonder you see your relationship as a magical realm where creativity and possibility keep expanding. You can access wonder by…

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