Give and Receive the Balm of Being Deeply Listened To

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 23 OF 31

We are resonating tubes that can hum or squeak, expand or recoil in retreat. When we are listened to with presence and curiosity, friction turns to flow and inner space is restored. So often the possibility of harmony gets quashed by listening filters such as what’s wrong, business first and split presence. You can shift this common pattern any time by fully turning toward your partner and generating open curiosity. If you find your easy breath and give some loving attention to you, then your partner, you, then your partner, as you’re listening, the ripples of connection spread deeply into your being and into your life. Generous listening fills both your emotional reservoirs and renews your energy for all the busyness of life. Having someone who values your discoveries and feelings, even your half-formed emerging experience, nourishes both of you. In each interaction you can be a source of drought or abundance—your choice.

Read the full series: Our Biggest Relationship Wows