Tag Archives: Gay Hendricks

Saying Yes Opens Endless Creativity—Tossing Turns Yes into Yes, And…
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 31 OF 31 How much of your relating revolves around defending, jockeying for who’s right this time, scorekeeping and tucking away tidbits you can use against your partner when you feel cornered? If your honest answer is anything more than “zero time,” the Yes…

Quantum Shift Alert–You Can Osmose Love
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 30 OF 31 Here’s one of the most pervasive myths about relationships—it’s just plain constant work and compromise. You could just let go of that obsolete notion. We’ve noticed, especially in recent years, that people open to learning can just GET IT, right now,…

Harmony Happens When Separate Tones Play Together
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 29 OF 31 If you think that you have to establish a Gregorian chant kind of relationship where you both adhere to one melody line of opinions about what’s right—and serious--we have good news for you. Two full voices can create endless harmonies. If…

To Have a Great Time All the Time, Play with Your Personas
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 28 OF 31 Everybody has personas, roles we still carry. We all learned to wear different roles just as we learned to wear different clothes and change expressions when certain people were around. You bring a whole circus of personas to your relationships. The…

To Experience Heaven Right Now, Live in Completion
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 27 OF 31 We savor the joy of giving and receiving more love in more ways every day. We treat each interaction as if it might be our last. We communicate feelings, thoughts and requests either in the moment or as soon as we…

All Feelings are Flow
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 26 OF 31 Wherever we travel in the world to share relationship explorations, people seem most interested, confused and befuddled by feelings. We even had a man specifically come for coaching to get us to perform a feeling-ectomy on his wife. He was convinced…

Creativity Can Replace Complaining
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 25 OF 31 In our book Conscious Loving Ever After we open with a chapter on creativity. If you were to make just one move to ignite passion and starve complaint, it’s to commit to creating and putting creativity first in your own life.…

Find Out What Delights Your Mate and Do It
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 24 OF 31 You can be the source of ongoing pleasure and joy when you look for ways to make your partner laugh. If you prioritize customized gifts of joy, you make quantum jumps in your pleasure together. In our book Conscious Loving we…

Give and Receive the Balm of Being Deeply Listened To
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 23 OF 31 We are resonating tubes that can hum or squeak, expand or recoil in retreat. When we are listened to with presence and curiosity, friction turns to flow and inner space is restored. So often the possibility of harmony gets quashed by…

Sex Can Keep Getting Better and Better Throughout Life
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 22 OF 31 Really. I know, sounds impossible and deluded. Doesn’t the science say sexual attraction has already peaked, and at your age you’re way past your expiration date?! If you commit and recommit to being real, expressing your creativity, appreciating you and your…

Changing One Thing Can Change Everything
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 21 OF 31 Scientists have confirmed something we’ve noticed for years: patterns can be interrupted with one new choice. You don’t have to strip mine the whole mountain to find the gold. You don’t need to change everything at once to change. By shifting…

You Can Discover the Whole Cosmos Through Your Partner
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 20 OF 31 Close relationship is your own personal spaceship that can take you to frontiers of consciousness and connection you didn’t know existed. Complete transparency opens the portal. When you let you partner fully IN, your molecules learn to dance in new ways…