Sex Can Keep Getting Better and Better Throughout Life

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 22 OF 31 Really. I know, sounds impossible and deluded. Doesn’t the science say sexual attraction has already peaked, and at your age you’re way past your expiration date?! If you commit and recommit to being real, expressing your creativity, appreciating you and your…

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Changing One Thing Can Change Everything

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 21 OF 31 Scientists have confirmed something we’ve noticed for years: patterns can be interrupted with one new choice. You don’t have to strip mine the whole mountain to find the gold. You don’t need to change everything at once to change. By shifting…

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You Can Discover the Whole Cosmos Through Your Partner

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 20 OF 31 Close relationship is your own personal spaceship that can take you to frontiers of consciousness and connection you didn’t know existed. Complete transparency opens the portal. When you let you partner fully IN, your molecules learn to dance in new ways…

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You Need to Tussle–Just Like Other Mammals

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 19 OF 31 We humans like to connect with our weight, to feel the impact of being fully met in our physicality and embodied presence. When our cats do this, we call it tussling, and it’s really a form of play that many grownups…

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Who Loves Ya, Baby?!

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 18 OF 31 People often in close relationships often look for their partner to fill the love gaps in their hearts. That’s a dead-end strategy. Everyone has gotten some wounds growing up, and those wounds distort a direct experience of loving yourself. Until you…

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You Can Create Exquisite Variety Without Leaving Your Partner or Having an Affair

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 17 OF 31 The culture has imposed some stereotypical stodginess on committed relationships, especially long-term ones. If you’ve worried that dull routine will take over your intimate connection, or if you’ve been tempted to create a new level of juiciness by venturing elsewhere, take…

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Wonder Supplies the Rocket-Fuel for Juicy Relating

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 16 OF 31 Wonder is the opposite of blame. Wonder opens all your brain and body intelligence power to make new connections. When you wonder you see your relationship as a magical realm where creativity and possibility keep expanding. You can access wonder by…

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You Don’t Have to Completely Understand the Issue to Let Go of It

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 15 OF 31 Many people have the same attitude toward relationship issues that they hold about certain vegetables (you know, like rutabaga) they were made to eat for their own good before desert could be served. They think they have to do the play-by-play…

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Respond Or React? In Each Interaction You Grow or Defend

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 14 OF 31 Let’s get right to the acid test for your close relationship, for any relationship really--getting undefended in the right-now moments of your days. It’s SO tempting to get righteous, indignant or downright peeved when it really looks like your partner is:…

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Take On Your Partner as an Appreciation Project

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 13 OF 31 If you are like most people, you intend to appreciate, you know how important it is, but you really don’t have an expanded appreciation vocabulary and you get seduced by the siren-song of worry, complaint or the compulsion to point out…

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Let Your Mate Be Your Ally, Especially When You’re Stuck

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 12 OF 31 When we decided to end blame and criticism in our relationship (yes, you too can do this), a tangential surprise occurred. We stopped seeing each other as the bad guy when we’d feel a jangle in our connection. The criticism habit…

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Attention is the Currency of Relationship

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE - PART 11 OF 31 Most of us learned that grownups are supposed to be emotional islands, self-sufficient and independent. This strong belief has truncated a vital source of support that we all require lifelong as much as food and water—that’s ATTENTION. Grownups need attention as…

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